As a woman, I thought about what I spend on myself monthly. First, I wrote down everything I buy for myself: Shampoo, conditioner, body wash, dry shampoo, face wash, Clarisonic, tea tree oil, razor, toothbrush, toothpaste, Chi serum, rose water, glycerin, body lotion, face lotion, primer, foundation, blush, highlighter, eye shadow, eyeliner, mascara, lipstick, lip gloss, eyebrow palette, eyebrow gel, hairspray, perfume, manicure, pedicure, makeup setting spray, nail polish, and makeup brushes.
And then I thought…well shoot. I decided to take the debate to the students to see what they thought by surveying ten men and ten women. When asked how long their daily routine is when getting ready, 90 percent of women surveyed answered with an hour or longer. You wish you had thinner thighs. Pertier breasts. Smoother skin. And so you pluck, tweeze, squeeze, peel, diet, and force your feet into shoes that hurt them, all in the hope that, one day, you will finally feel beautiful and worthy of love.
But that day never comes. Instead, the standards of beauty keep getting narrower and narrower. Ten years ago, size zero did not exist. Hair has become unacceptable anywhere bar the head. The media and beauty, diet, and fitness industries keep creating illusions, promoting standards of beauty impossible to achieve in order to make millions. Problems those industries have created. I did too. I still tweeze my eyebrows and wear high heels from time to time. But I think it is important to recognize what we are suffering for.
We need to redefine our definition of beauty. True beauty is not about thin thighs and luscious hair. And it certainly is never painful. True beauty is fun, happy, positive. It is in your soul, and comes from within. Your values and your personality. True beauty is imperfect, but never flawed. There are a lot of ways to learn to embrace true beauty and inspire others to do the same.
Here are a few:. Speaking negatively about your job is not just common. It is expected. But the price is too high. When you say nasty things about your body, you start feeling less confident and worthy. You make other people feel like that, too. If you judge yourself too harshly, you teach other people to do the same. So, stop. Refuse to say anything bad aloud and ask your friends to do the same.
Don't forget that models and celebrities spend hours and mega money primping, working out, dieting, and having medical procedures to help them look the way they do, says the relationship expert and professor.
Build confidence and self-esteem. It's how you feel about yourself that is important, not your actual weight, height, or physical body mass, she says. From our newsroom to your inbox at noon, the latest headlines, stories, opinion and photos from the Toronto Sun. A welcome email is on its way. If you don't see it, please check your junk folder. The next issue of Your Midday Sun will soon be in your inbox. We encountered an issue signing you up.
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